Tuesday 31 October 2017

Halloween 2017

Halloween is such a fun holiday celebration with kids.  I love the excitement that comes with it, the hard decision on what they are going to dress up as, the sugar high and fun Halloween traditions. 

Lacey was a witch again this year. It's a plus when their halloween costume from the year before still fits. But she wasn't any which, she was Miss Witch from 'Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom'. Lincoln was flash and Oliver was a skeleton.

Carving pumpkins is our favourite halloween tradition. It's a fun messy activity the we all enjoy!

Wednesday 25 October 2017

October is Spina Bifida Month!


I don’t share our journey with Spina Bifida because I want people to feel sorry for us. I share it to bring awareness. October is Spina Bifida Awareness month!

Spina Bifida: means “split spine’. It occurs during the first month during pregnancy when the spinal column fails to close. At the opening, many of the body’s nerves are exposed and often times even protruding, causing damage to the body from that point down.  Spina Bifida lesion must be closed by way of an intense spinal surgery. This can be done by Fetal Surgery (very high risk closure surgery performed between 21-25 week of pregnancy. It can potentially carry great benefit, but it is not an option for all Spina Bifida cases.) The other surgery option is Post Natal Surgery (closure surgery performed after birth. Muscles, tendons & skin are restored to cover the lesion. Nerve functions lost during pregnancy are not regained)

So now you know a little more than you did yesterday about Spina Bifida. We too are learning more everyday about our little boy. We love him so much and look forward to the light and happiness he brings with him every single day!

What’s this about a shunt? Due to pressures on the spine and brain, 80%  Spina Bifida patients are also diagnosed with hydrocephalus, which is a build up of fluid in the brain. A brain shunt aids in the draining of the Cerebrospinal Fluid (CFS)… Oliver had his placed when he was 6 months old. At 20 months Oliver had his VP programable shunt adjusted so it would drain a little bit faster. This adjustment is done by a magnetic device... We do have to keep an eye out for shunt malfunctions. We do this by watching for his soft spot for bulging or sinking, measuring his head daily to make sure it’s growth wasn’t too fast, headaches, vomiting, lethargic, Irritability, and swelling or redness along the shunt tract. Watching for symptoms of a malfunction is a common worry for parents of children with Spina Bifida but thankfully this isn't a constant concern.

36% of children with Spina Bifida are given the chance to live! 64% are aborted… At the time of Oliver's diagnosis and the weeks to follow, we were asked multiple times if we wanted to end my pregnancy. That was never a choice for us. Yes the doctors gave us the absolute worse cases scenario, which was very hard to hear as parents. Sometimes life doesn't go as we have it planned. You just have to have faith, that everything will be okay. I couldn't image our family life without Oliver.

Spina bifida is often referred to as a “snowflake condition, meaning that it is different for every person depending where the lesion level is…Because every cause of Spina Bifida is different, there is a variety of complications - mobility concerns (There is a huge variety on how patients get around, walking with braces, walkers, wheelchairs), severe bowel and bladder issues, latex allergy, Arnold chiari malfunction (this occurs when the pressure on the brain causes the brain stem to extend into the spinal column, causing body to weakness and respiratory and sleep issues… Oliver has some paralysis of the lower limbs with little feeling, Oliver uses a wheelchair to get around and army crawls (using only his upper body). Oliver receives physical therapy to help him to be as independent as possible. 


Did you know? While neurosurgeons have come a long way with closure techniques to try to provide patients with the best life possible. There is NO CURE for Spina Bifida.

Taking FOLIC ACID before becoming pregnant can prevent a portion of neural tube defects. But this only applies to about 2/3 of patients. There is no known way to completely prevent Spina Bifida…. I was taking prenatal vitamins for two years when I got pregnant with Oliver.

These kids may have a few difficulties that other kids don't have, but they're really amazing kids. Oliver has worked super hard for an incredibly long time to master skills/ reach milestones. “It's all they know so it doesn't get them down, it doesn't slow them down or stop them, this is what they know, this is what they do.” Oliver does it with a smile and positive attitude. Oliver has shown me what life is truly all about. I wouldn’t change a thing. You are perfect to me. Thank you for being you. It is an honour to be on this Spina Bifida journey beside you.

Kindergarten Skating Field Trip

Mrs DeJong is one fabulous teacher who does three skating field trips with her kindergarten class. Lacey has been looking forward to this field trip since Lincoln was in Mrs DeJong's kindergarten class two years ago. Lacey loved her kindergarten skating field trip with Dad! After a few good falls, she is now figuring out this skating thing.

Friday 20 October 2017

Rainbow Pumpkins

We had a lot of fun doing Halloween activities this year! Rainbow crayon pumpkins was one of our activities. The kids loved seeing how wax crayons melt when you hold a hot blow dryer near them. Making a colourful pumpkin.

Sunday 8 October 2017

Lethbridge Corn Maze 2017

 Perfect fall day getting lost in the corn maze! We all had a blast. Lincoln and Lacey loved taking turns, telling what way we should go. Oliver was just happy to be included! The petting zoo was also a big hit. Oliver loved feeding the goats.



Harker Family Pictures 2017

 I'm in love with our family pictures this year, they turned out amazing!
It was also the first time the Josh's parents have had family pictures taken.




Oliver 20 months

 Lincoln 7 years old

Lacey 5 years old